A Must Read | Protecting the Gift: Keeping Children and Teenagers Safe (and Parents Sane)

Parents...get this book. | Protecting the Gift: Keeping Children and Teenagers Safe (and Parents Sane) | Gavin de Becker

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	• Protecting the Gift: Keeping Children and Teenagers Safe (and Parents Sane) Gavin de Becker Dell, 2000 - 352 pages average customer review:based on 122 reviews view larger image
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highly recommended

must read for every parent especially for parents with daugthers

Every parent must read this book. It dispells many myths we teach our children today that actually make them less safe and shows us how to keep them safe. THis book is especially important for parents with daugthers. IT is specific about how girls and especially teenage girls are the biggest "target" group and how to go about keeping them safe. This book could save you child's life. He gives inside information as his whole life has been centered around protecting people from violence. He knows what he's talking about and has thousands of people who thank him for thier continued safety and peace of mind. I tell everyone i know that this is the most important book ive ever read.

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A Must Read

Gavin de Becker provides the reader with facts, anecdotes and recommendations that both surprise and confound the reader. Many times this reviewer said, to himself, "Of course, why didn't I think (realize) that?" From helping us understand why our misguided instructions, like "Don't talk to strangers," often makes our kids less safe, to providing suggestions that make them safer ("Always ask a lady for help") this is must read for parents.

Parents...get this book.

Protecting the Gift: Keeping Children and Teenagers Safe and Parents Sane by Gavin de Becker is another excellent book on the protective signal of intuition and how you can use it to remain safe in a dangerous and oftentimes violent world. All of us are born with intuition yet some choose to ignore this early warning alarm designed to alert us to potentially dangerous or lethal situations. We must learn to honor this intuition and realize that it is a protective mechanism that something is wrong.

In this book de Becker goes into detail on how to harness the power of intuition and use it to your benefit and as a tool to protect your children. There are many stories provided to emphasize and demonstrate key points within the book.

Parts of the book that I really thought were beneficial are:

Signals of Denial:
This section of the book talks about why we make excuses for the bad guy or completely stick our head in the sand and refuse to believe that evil exists.
-Rationalization
-Justification
-Minimization
-Excuse-making
-Refusal

Survival Signals
These are techniques that a predator may use to put you at ease so that he can build your trust and confidence.
-Forced Teaming
-Charm and Niceness
-Too Many Details
-Typecasting
-Loan-Sharking
-The Unsolicited Promise
-Discounting the Word "No"

The Test of Twelve - 12 items your kids must know

The chapter on babysitters had excellent information that parents must know before leaving their kids with a sitter. It is absolutely crucial to interview the baby sitter, don't make a decision immediately, and always check reference even if the sitter comes highly recommended from a friend. The same applies when choosing your childs doctor.

There really is an abundance of good information provided by a very qualified expert in the field of violence. For instance, "No" really means "No" and women especially should not begin a negotiation with a person when their answer is "No". In addition, it a girl does not want to date a pushy boy she does NOT owe him an explanation why she doesn't want to date him. Tell him "no" and leave it at that. If he continually calls do not answer the phone, do not return message...the key is no further communication.

The one negative aspect of this book that I do not agree with is de Becker's firm anti-gun stance. Considering his childhood and background I understand his perspective. Gun violence is a huge problem and if you choose to own a firearm for defense then have it properly secured from children, learn how to properly use it, continually practice and periodically attend additional training classes. Responsible firearms ownership is the answer if you own a firearm.

If you have children get this book. I would also highly recommend The Gift of Fear by Gavin de Becker.

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Excellent book!

Protecting the Gift is an excellent book. I especially appreciated De Becker's description of all the people out there in denial ("the deniers") who aid the child molesters by refusing to see the glaring clues right in front of them. The deniers prefer to have their head in the sand, but that's a surefire way to put your child in danger. Don't be a denier!

A Must for Keeping Children Safe

If all caring and well-intentioned adults read this book, we would have far fewer horror stories of terrible things happening to children. This is a book I own and read from time to time to remind myself how to protect my children and how to teach them to be safe without being ridiculously scared. I particularly like de Becker's review of how typical rules about strangers come up short in the real world and signs to watch for that a persuasion predator is at work. Highly recommend to all parents and all those around children.

I read the negative reviews and don't see their points. I have read The Gift of Fear as well and there's enough here to merit another book and I just don't see him promoting himself.

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Safety skills for children outside the home
Warning signs of sexual abuse
How to screen baby-sitters and choose schools
Strategies for keeping teenagers safe from violence

All parents face the same challenges when it comes to their children's safety: whom to trust, whom to distrust, what to believe, what to doubt, what to fear, and what not to fear. In this empowering book, Gavin de Becker, the nation's leading expert on predicting violent behavior and author of the monumental bestseller The Gift of Fear, offers practical new steps to enhance children's safety at every age level, giving you the tools you need to allow your kids freedom without losing sleep yourself. With daring and compassion, he shatters the widely held myths about danger and safety and helps parents find some certainty about life's highest-stakes questions:

How can I know a baby-sitter won't turn out to be someone who harms my child? (see page 103)
What should I ask child-care professionals when I interview them? (see page 137)
What's the best way to prepare my child for walking to school alone? (see page 91)
How can my child be safer at school? (see page 175)
How can I spot sexual predators? (see page 148)
What should I do if my child is lost in public? (see page 86)
How can I teach my child about risk without causing too much fear? (see page 98)
What must my teenage daughter know in order to be safe? (see page 191)
What must my teenage son know in order to be safe? (see page 218)
And finally, in the face of all these questions, how can I reduce the worrying? (see page 56)

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