GREAT BOOK!!! | Women Who Love Too Much

Excellent! | Women Who Love Too Much | Robin Norwood

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	• Women Who Love Too Much Robin Norwood Pocket, 1986 - 302 pages average customer review:based on 125 reviews view larger image
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highly recommended

It changed my thoughts

I agree that this is a very good book and it did change some of my thoughts and bring me some new thoughts too. However, I will say I need to wait and see if it will truly change my life.
I found the first half of the book too verbalizing too. I also need to mention that not every person who loves too much is coming from a family with alcoholic parent. Thus, some advices based on that do not seem to be universally valid.

The most helpful part is chapter 10, "the road to recovery". In this chapter, the advices I appreciate the most are:
1. Make your recovery a first priority.

"It requires a total commitment to yourself. This may be the first time in your life that you have regarded yourself as truly important, truly worthy of your own attention and nurturing. Also required is the willingness to continue to spend time and money to get well. If it seems wasteful, consider how much time and money you have spent try to avoid the pain either from being in our relationship or from having it end. Recovery requires that you be willing to invest at least that much in getting well. " This maybe the hardest challenge for me and for many women, we always put our family, job, etc ahead of our own personal need.

2. Stop managing and controlling him.
"It means stepping out of the role of encouraging and praising him, watching him, it means detaching. You may continue to care about him, but you don't take care of him." My understanding is to stop swirling around him as if he is the center of universe, where treat yourself as the center of your own universe. "Say and do nothing. " Stop hating, nagging or supporting or helping him, let him find out if you are the important one for him. This actually works a little for me . I stop to support him , and then he gets really angry, after a big fight, he was actually a little nicer to me.

"One of the implication of letting go of managing and controlling others is that you must relinquish the identity of `being helpful'. The identity of `being helpful ' is an ego trip. If you really want to be helpful, let go of this problem and help yourself." I still do not think being helpful was managing and controlling him, I was trying to help, but from his point of view, he may think that is the case. This book makes me understand that.

3. Learn to not get hooked into the games. .
"You respond in a way that will end the game". Do not get into meaningless fights. Save the energy and take the responsibility for your own personal growth. This is hard, I need to work even harder on this.

There are many other good points, which may be studied in many other self help books. I do think this is a good book and worth five stars even if it is not all perfect.

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GREAT BOOK!!!

This book has been SO helpful!!!It is easy to read and well written. I would recomment this to anyone!!!! Iam looking into more books by this author

Excellent!

This book was extremely helpful. I recommend to anyone who has current relationship problems especially those that may stem from having parents that have/had unhealthy relationships themselves.

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Codependent issues

I first read this book some 20 years ago, and for me it was a guide to get some help and awareness of exactly who I was. Nothing changes if nothing changes.

Women Who Love Too Much

What an awesome read. Very confronting and eye opening. Every woman should read this book it is completely current for today. Beautifully written by a woman for women. Must be read with an open heart and an open mind. Overwhelming.Women Who Love Too Much

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Is having 'somebody to love' the most important thing in your life? Do you constantly believe that with 'the right man' you would no longer feel depressed or lonely? Are you bored with 'nice guys' who are open, honest and dependable? If being in love means being in pain, this book was written for you. Therapist Robin Norwood describes loving too much as a pattern of thoughts and behavior, which certain women develop as a response to problems from childhood. Many women find themselves repeatedly drawn into unhappy and destructive relationships with men. They then struggle to make these doomed relationships work. This bestselling book takes a hard look at how powerfully addictive these unhealthy relationships are - but also gives a very specific program for recovery from the disease of loving too much.

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